Excuse me while I throw this down, I’m old and cranky and tired of hearing the idiocy repeated by people who ought to know better.
Real women do not have curves. Real women do not look like just one thing.
Real women have curves, and not. They are tall, and not. They are brown-skinned, and olive-skinned, and not. They have small breasts, and big ones, and no breasts whatsoever.
Real women start their lives as baby girls. And as baby boys. And as babies of indeterminate biological sex whose bodies terrify their doctors and families into making all kinds of very sudden decisions.
Real women have big hands and small hands and long elegant fingers and short stubby fingers and manicures and broken nails with dirt under them.
Real women have armpit hair and leg hair and pubic hair and facial hair and chest hair and sexy moustaches and full, luxuriant beards. Real women have none of these things, spontaneously or as the result of intentional change. Real women are bald as eggs, by chance and by choice and by chemo. Real women have hair so long they can sit on it. Real women wear wigs and weaves and extensions and kufi and do-rags and hairnets and hijab and headscarves and hats and yarmulkes and textured rubber swim caps with the plastic flowers on the sides.
Real women wear high heels and skirts. Or not.
Real women are feminine and smell good and they are masculine and smell good and they are androgynous and smell good, except when they don’t smell so good, but that can be changed if desired because real women change stuff when they want to.
Real women have ovaries. Unless they don’t, and sometimes they don’t because they were born that way and sometimes they don’t because they had to have their ovaries removed. Real women have uteruses, unless they don’t, see above. Real women have vaginas and clitorises and XX sex chromosomes and high estrogen levels, they ovulate and menstruate and can get pregnant and have babies. Except sometimes not, for a rather spectacular array of reasons both spontaneous and induced.
Real women are fat. And thin. And both, and neither, and otherwise. Doesn’t make them any less real.
There is a phrase I wish I could engrave upon the hearts of every single person, everywhere in the world, and it is this sentence which comes from the genius lips of the grand and eloquent Mr. Glenn Marla:
There is no wrong way to have a body.
I’m going to say it again because it’s important: There is no wrong way to have a body.
And if your moral compass points in any way, shape, or form to equality, you need to get this through your thick skull and stop with the “real women are like such-and-so” crap.
You are not the authority on what “real” human beings are, and who qualifies as “real” and on what basis. All human beings are real.
Yes, I know you’re tired of feeling disenfranchised. It is a tiresome and loathsome thing to be and to feel. But the tit-for-tat disenfranchisement of others is not going to solve that problem. Solidarity has to start somewhere and it might as well be with you and me.
The DSM-V, the newest edition of the diagnostic manual used to classify mental illnesses, will rename the entry for “Gender Identity Disorder” to “Gender Dysphoria,” representing a major change in how the medical community views trans people.
According to sources cited in this AP article, this change has been long time coming from activists and mental health professionals who argue about the harmful stigma that results when trans people are labeled as disordered. The term “dysphoria” implies only a temporary mental state that some people have, they say, which is certainly better than claiming that all trans people have a “disorder.”
While some people are still calling for a description of a trans-related condition to be removed entirely from the DSM-V, other trans activists think there are upsides to having some kind of diagnosis to refer to. One is insurance: procedures like gender reassignment surgery are more likely to be covered with a diagnosis to back them up.
Another is discrimination: if a trans person is discriminated against because of their gender identity, a diagnosed condition makes it easier to stand up for that person in a courtroom and explain that being trans is not a superficial “phase,” but a recognized, legitimate identity.
Of course, these may not outweigh the harm that being labeled a “disorder” might cause. The AP article above has tons of quotes from assorted specialists making lots of different claims about this. What’s your take?
More details and questions regarding the reclassification of “GID”.
with this whole replicas are banned on egl bullshit going down i want to know which major brand went to the mods asking them to “ban” replicas from the community and why the mods think that the major brands would have to ability to shut down the community?
Livejournal have really cracked down recently on communities that have anything to do with replicas and generally ‘dodgy’ and have been doing a lot of purging recently - someone told me a while back that livejournal have been close to purging the egl communities before.
It’s really easy for a company to contact livejournal with a report and have egl shut down forever, and I don’t think the mods wanted to take that chance at all. I still really wanna know which brand asked though - my money is on Angelic Pretty.
Also the only reason I wrote this was because your tumblr url is the same as my main email address. o_o