“Depression is humiliating. It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal healthy ability to cope with bad days and bad news, and replaces it with an unrecognizable sludge that finds no pleasure, no delight, no point in anything outside of bed. You alienate your friends because you can’t comport yourself socially, you risk your job because you can’t concentrate, you live in moderate squalor because you have no energy to stand up, let alone take out the garbage. You become pathetic and you know it. And you have no capacity to stop the downward plunge. You have no perspective, no emotional reserves, no faith that it will get better. So you feel guilty and ashamed of your inability to deal with life like a regular human, which exacerbates the depression and the isolation. If you’ve never been depressed, thank your lucky stars and back off the folks who take a pill so they can make eye contact with the grocery store cashier. No one on earth would choose the nightmare of depression over an averagely turbulent normal life.
It’s not an incapacity to cope with day to day living in the modern world. It’s an incapacity to function. At all. If you and your loved ones have been spared, every blessing to you. If depression has taken root in you or your loved ones, every blessing to you, too. No one chooses it. No one deserves it. It runs in families, it ruins families. You cannot imagine what it takes to feign normalcy, to show up to work, to make a dentist appointment, to pay bills, to walk your dog, to return library books on time, to keep enough toilet paper on hand, when you are exerting most of your capacity on trying not to kill yourself. Depression is real. Just because you’ve never had it doesn’t make it imaginary. Compassion is also real. And a depressed person may cling desperately to it until they are out of the woods and they may remember your compassion for the rest of their lives as a force greater than their depression. Have a heart. Judge not lest ye be judged.”—
EVERYONE NEEDS TO READ THIS.
Depression is not a synonym for being sad or having a bad day/bad week.
It’s not a PHASE. It’s not a CHOICE. It’s not LAZINESS.
Helena Bonham-Carter:Everybody has an inferiority complex when they step into a room. But then when you have children and you get older, it doesn’t really matter. When I was young I had so many inferiority complexes. I had an inferiority complex because I didn’t go to university. I had an inferiority complex because I didn’t train. Then it gets tiring. And you do get bored of it.
Daniel Radcliffe:Right. And so that boredom is actually what ultimately leads you to go, “Oh, fuck it.”
Helena Bonham-Carter:“Fuck it” is my guiding philosophy.
I think that would really be a psychological issue rather than a medical one, it could be a conditioned response to stress/anxiety. It’s not uncommon at all!
Who would I see about that kind of issue?
If you wanted you could try and visit a psychologist – although it could be expensive (I have no clue). I know some places are covered by healthcare, and you could try http://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/ (They’re in Perth, my Abnormal Psychology lecturer works there). In terms of medication you could try domperidon/motillium which suppresses vomiting and physical nausea, or you could take the herbal route and try Valerian root or St John’s Wort for anxiety (I used it until I went on birth control – it renders it useless). If you see a psych it would probably be a thing of reducing anxiety and finding ways to distract yourself when you feel the nausea coming on. Anxiety is a difficult one because the more you think about it and how you feel the more aware you become of it affecting you. You can’t control your brain and the anxiety, but you can control your body by finding ways to relax – exercise, meditation, relaxation and whatever floats your boat. I hope I could be of some help!