Like sure, I don’t respect Chris Brown for what he did but…
then she turns around and sings a song about how she wants to be hit with chains and whips.
LOL girl, make up yo mind.
Try talking to people who actually do partake in S&M and you may learn a few things. From my limited understanding, quite a few people enjoy it because it gives them a sense of control of themselves and their sexuality. Perhaps this is her way of reclaiming herself after all that happened.
This mindset that you have is so damaging in this society and it plays in to the oppression of woman and their sexuality and well, people who have suffered and want to gain some control over at least one thing.
A persons sexual likings rarely play into who they are as a person and how they want to be treated by the person who is supposed to love them. It’s kind of like telling someone who has been thrown off a horse not to get back on again, someone who has been raped not to have sex ever again, someone who was beaten up while out simply walking to never leave the house again, that because you were abused in one relationship that you can never have another one because it may happen again.
I’ve seen a far bit of victim blaming on my dash concerning Rihanna today and I felt I had to say something as this view on things is deeply disturbing to me not only as a human being but as someone who has spent most of her life seeing her mother move from one abusive man to the next, as someone has suffered because of it, as someone who’s little brothers have suffered because of it. A someone who has seen one of the strongest women in the world beaten down repeatedly for no other reason that she was a strong woman who had opinions of her own and the egotistical privilege of men who really should never be in relationships ever.
Frankly, I’m sick of seeing people say thatRihanna deserved what she got just because she’s sung about something that is really falsified by society. I follow people who are/have been involved in S&M and they are some of the more strong, well adjusted people out there. Do a little research, educate yourself and don’t blame a woman for wanting to put a bad situation behind her and build herself back up again. I say goo on Rihanna for not letting what happened get in the way of a healthy sexual appetite.
Thanks for listening to me babble, but this view has to stop.
During the later years of the French Revolution (1789–99) at the end of the eighteenth century, many fashionable young people of the upper and middle classes adopted a style called à la victime, or “like the victim.” This fashion imitated the look of the thousands of people who were executed…